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Matters of the ? | Miles?Apart

Posted by ThinkSoul25 on May 18, 2012 ? Leave a Comment?

The semester has finally ended. I did pretty good with my classes and I should graduate in August, which isn?t too far away since summer is basically here. I don?t have many classes to take this summer, so most of my time is going to be spent going to concerts, hanging out with friends, and seeing my boyfriend two weekends every month (for right now). Caught ya off guard with that one, huh? The reason why I say ?two weekends every month? is because I?m in a long-distance relationship. Oh my, stop the presses and start panicking! Why on earth would I do such an absurd thing? Is it really worth it? Aren?t you afraid either of you will cheat? Blah, blah, blah. Those are just a few of things that people have told me in response to the idea of being?miles apart from their significant other.

Typically, I used to be the first person to shy away from dating someone that lived more than 30 miles away. If it wasn?t in close proximity via car or train, then I didn?t want to deal with the back and forth hassle of who comes to see who. Or worse, you have to deal with the trust issues and those moments when you feel the communication starting to dwindle away. Sort of like what happened in the movie Going The Distance?with Drew Barrymore & Justin Long. Good movie?I liked it a lot, some didn?t. However, the relationship in that movie was between a couple who were on totally opposite sides of the country; flying back and forth from New York to Los Angeles. Of course in the end one of them decided to move (which is what usually happens after being long-distance for some time.) I?m pretty sure I could handle that, but I?m happy that my boyfriend only lives about 4-5 hours away (I?m in Maryland, he?s in Pennsylvania) via car, train, and bus.?But even if he was farther away or enlisted back in the military and went back to Iraq (luckily he has no plans of doing that again,) I?d still say the relationship is so worth it.

Long-distance relationships are truly what you make it. The key is communication. I talk to my boyfriend everyday, it?s just our thing. We always have random conversations or end up playing Mass Effect 3?together or a few rounds of MW3. People have asked me if it?s difficult being long-distance, but honestly it?s worth it. I take into account how technological our society is and how people are constantly becoming interconnected via the Internet. We easily stay in touch with?Skype, Facebook, Email, Text, and Calling.

Technology brought us together, so might as well use it. I first met my boyfriend 2 1/2 years ago while I was living in Colorado. We met on Myspace. It was just one of those random moments in which I found myself bored and looking for someone interesting to talk to. Here?s a breakdown of what happened: we talked, we hung out, he moved to Maryland, I stayed in Colorado, then I moved to Maryland, he was dating someone else, then moved back to Colorado, I was no longer there, then we reconnected.Now we find ourselves 5 months into our relationship and he isn?t in Colorado anymore, but on the East Coast. So now it?s even more manageable being together. And of course, we make sure that both of us our on the same page. In a long-distance relationship you have to communicate and discuss the future of the relationship, i.e. someone is going to eventually move. But for now, I?m just happy that I have such a wonderful man in my life. But I often think about the ?what if.? What if I wouldn?t have given him a second chance? What if we would have said this isn?t going to work, miles apart is no bueno (I say that a lot, my bf is Puerto Rican and neither of us know a lot of Spanish, so I?m always joking around saying no bueno.)

The ?what ifs? are interesting to think about, but I?m glad both of us decided to take a chance and truly give long-distance a real shot. It?s not totally easy, but no relationship is. It?s all about your perspective. If you really love someone, then anything is truly possible with dedication, passion, commitment, and good old fashioned teamwork. It?s not all on one person to figure everything out. Long-distance relationships often mean compromise. Whether it?s splitting the price of the tickets or meeting half way, it?s all about making the effort.

Oh, and want to know my favorite thing about being long-distance? When we hang out, we get to do spontaneous things. Some couples get into the boring habit of never going anywhere or trying new things, but long-distance compels you to create epic memories. You get to spend time with the person you love, but you also get to have unforgettable weekends that you can talk about for years to come. So if you ask me if a long-distance relationship is worth it? Then I?d say, yes?.so worth it. It?s not for everyone though (some people aren?t strong enough for it,) but it works for me and I?m honestly the happiest I?ve been in a very long time. It?s nice to to know that someone?s heart miles away is calling out for me?.

This song totally fits the theme of long-distance relationships.

?Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com

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